Don’t let your expectations lead to your suffering

Welcome back,

As real estate investors our businesses often times revolve around the decisions of other people. While purchasing property we often times can find ourselves mentally crossing-our-fingers or saying our prayers in hopes a seller or buyer will make a decision which favors our wallets. These unnecessary and ill placed expectations can often times lead to misunderstood suffering and anxiety in your real estate business.

For the health and well-being of your business and sanity keep in mind that there are some activities and decisions you can control, and others you cannot control. Keep focus on the items within your control and eliminate the expectations of the others from your mind.

A few tasks and decisions on which you may not want to place high expectation:

  • A seller’s decision to accept your purchase offer
  • A buyer’s decision to buy your property
  • Your buyer becoming approved by his/her lender for financing
  • Any underwriting decision
  • Your handyman’s productivity
  • The speed of your closing company, bank, lender
  • Setting an appointment with any specific fsbo before you first call them

A few tasks and decisions on which you may want to place high expectations:

  • How many offers you make per day/week
  • How many new fsbos you call per day/week
  • How much effort you exert on advertising and marketing your business
  • How much you network with other investors
  • How much effort you put forth in your business
  • Which escrow companies or attorneys you work with
  • Which sellers and buyers you work with

As touched on in the bullets above the only tasks and items you may wish to place high expectations upon are the tasks and items which depend on your direct and complete activity. If you succeed or fail in performing these tasks then the success or failure is solely on your shoulders. When you start including other people, either buyers, sellers, assistants, closing attorneys, outsourcers, contractors, handymen, title agents, etc you have less and less control. This is not a negative or a positive, it simply is something to understand and compensate for.

In short, items and tasks which only involve your physical and mental energy to perform are within your control. Any items or tasks you outsource are outside of your control. Place high expectations on items that you solely control – these expectations with time deadlines are often times called goals.

When real estate is involved tasks often times have the outcome of taking longer and costing more than expected to complete. For this reason it can be sage advice to expect things will take twice as long to complete and three times the amount of capital as expected. Whether you are accounting for holding costs, repair costs, marketing, selling time, or repair time always err on the side of caution and factor in extra time and costs in to your deals.

Be the happiest real estate investor you can be. The less stressed and less you suffer the happier and more likely you will be to consistently put forth effort in your investing business and take daily action.

Love what you do daily,

John Fedro

5 thoughts on “Don’t let your expectations lead to your suffering

  1. Brad Starklandwaldo

    Absolutely wonderful and true video John. This post has reached me at a point in my life when it is needed the most. I am going through some changes to my business and have been feeling the stress you outlined in the video with respect to placing expectations on other people.

    Thank you again and you rock,
    Brad Starklandwaldo

    • John Fedro

      Hi Brad,

      Thank you for commenting and for your kind words. I am so happy this video and article has helped you in your investing life.

      All the best and talk soon,
      John

  2. Josh Lambert

    Hey there! I’ve been reading your blog for a while now and finally got the courage to go ahead and give you a shout out from East Detroit. Just wanted to say keep up the fantastic job! I’ll be in touch soon with more questions I am sure.

    Thank you again.

    Josh L

    • John Fedro

      Hi Josh

      Thanks for commenting and finally reaching out. Additionally thanks for your kind words and I’m so glad that these posts have been helpful to you. If you have any specific questions or even general questions never hesitate to reach back out any time. Always here to help.

      Talk soon,
      John

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